“The resources that I’ve gotten from the Taylor Group over the years have changed the way I step into being a leader, how I stand for the communities we serve and the team I’m a member of.”
When Bethany began her work with the Taylor Group over 5 years ago, she knew things had to change. “I found myself cycling in a victim triangle. If I wasn’t the victim, I was stuck being the perpetrator or the rescuer to those feeling like the victim. My energy was exhausted and my panic attacks were at an all time high.” Initially, she began utilizing the Neurofeedback program and a Personal Development Coach to help her generate practices that presenced her in the panic. “I eventually was able to move myself to a place where I no longer had panic attacks. Even when those around me were panicking, I could move through the negative head space and shift to trusting myself in the moment”. By staying present with herself and her team, Bethany developed the ability to choose conversations that did not escalate the situation, but rather built trust and relationship. With the Taylor Group, Bethany said: “I now had a judgement-free zone to reach out to in times of self doubt and was able to provide this same space to my team. I trusted the support structures I was provided, and my team trusted me”. As she began to move herself into this new empowered space of presence and peace, the world around her changed in an instant. These skills have served her well recently, as COVID-19 shifted the way her team worked and required Bethany to be a different kind of leader.
Bethany led her team through the uncertainty by creating a space of opportunity. The leaders in her 3 locations began working together in an entirely new way, upgrading who they were as individuals and how they engaged with their community. Even though the struggles of business were at an all-time high and chaos surrounded her store, Bethany noticed that by shifting to an open mind even when she disagreed with a disgruntled team member, there was more peaceful resolution and better outcomes than before. With the support of her coaches, she was able to support her team in moving through similar barriers of judgement into a state of grace and forgiveness. “My team took this unprecedented time to remove all the negativity that could flare up and potentially create animosity. Instead, they “were committed to a higher place – one where the company’s growth was a priority, and staying focused on this end goal would provide the entire team a place to come back to when all of this is over.”
“ We’re creating a new way of being that’s built around positivity and support. When people come back, we want them to be a part of this new place, too.”
To achieve all of this progress as a leader, Bethany worked with our team to develop a personal practice that we train many of our clients to use. The key is to shift the focus to the future, thinking specifically about what we want for ourselves and our business after this pandemic is over. In the face of uncertainty, and rapidly evolving business and social conditions, this is particularly challenging. Our instincts tell us to narrow our focus to the immediate crisis, dealing with what’s currently going wrong. It requires focus and training, but it is possible to resist the pull of the urgent so you can engage with what is actually important in the longer run.
The benefits of this approach touch all domains of a person’s life. A study was done at UC Berkeley tested how this future facing mentality affects overall business and personal motivation. What they found was a significant correlation between prospection (a forward-facing mentality) and fulfillment. The work we do with clients supports them in building their ability to make choices based on what their future selves want in their career and personal life, then integrating that into the way they work, and the conversations they have with teammates, managers, and family.
The way we humans face the future doesn’t just influence our own lives. It can also influence how we treat other people. Now is the time to decide who we want to be when social distancing is over and life after lockdown begins. How do we want to step into the new normal on the other side of COVID-19?